How to Ruin an Orgasm If you are involved in the edging, orgasm control, or gooning community you have probably seen people talking about “ruining” their orgasm. But what does that mean? Imagine you are having a solo session and things are getting steamy. You know that soon you’re going to cum, and the urge to push yourself over the edge is irresistible. But what if, as soon as you feel yourself explode with pleasure, you stop all stimulation. That, and the wonderful terrible frustration that follows, is a ruined orgasm.  Gender Differences For people with penises ruined orgasms are easy to spot. Usually a tell tale sign is cum…