Tips for the Nervous or Shy Gooner
So, you’ve decided to approach me, or another sex worker, but you’re not sure what to do. Here are some tips to ensure that you have the best experience possible!
The Approach
When you first go to interact with someone new, it can be a bit of a nervewracking experience. There are some tried and true ways to to get the right attention:
- Avoid sending a one word greeting
- There is no faster way to ensure that you are ignored than just saying “hi”. If I get a “hey” “hello” or even a “what’s up” I pretty much always open the message so that the notification clears, then move on with my day. If you are a sex worker you will get about 100 of these per day; it shows a lack of effort on the part of the sender.
- Some acceptable greetings would be
- “Hello [miss, mr, preferred title], I noticed you provide X. I’d like to know more about that.
- Hi, how are you? I saw your post about X and I wanted to say…”
- Cut to the chase
- You’re messaging this person for a reason right? Why bother side stepping around it. Adult entertainers are not mind readers- though I’e gotten pretty good at guessing. Just say what you want, respectfully.
- Don’t send photos without asking
- This is a personal preference of mine. If you message me porn or a photo of your dick unannounced I will assume that you don’t understand the concept of consent. You will be blocked and promptly forgotten about.
Discussing Pricing and Services
- Do:
- Be respectful
- Accept limits. Not every person offers every thing. If they don’t do something you want, there’s a ton of others out there who will.
- Be honest about your budget, especially with findoms
- Be clear about what you’re looking for, your limits, and your expectations.
- Don’t
- Haggle. You don’t need our nudes to survive. It’s a luxury, so expect luxury pricing. When someone says “wow that’s expensive” it becomes clear that they don’t value me or what I provide- generally I show them to the door.
- Ask for freebies. Our photos, clip previews, audio previews, etc are going to be everywhere. If you take two seconds to check out our websites or social media you will find them.
During Play
The best piece of advice I can offer you is to try to keep the conversation reciprocal. It should be a 50/50 amount of work. If you are sending one word answers or repeating the same thing over and over it leaves us with nowhere to go. If you’re nervous or don’t know what to say- say so!
Do you need some advice? Ask me here!
